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The Real Life Story of Ashley Tervort (Imaginary?!)

September 24, 2020 Abdulaziz M Alhamdan M.Sc. Episode 39
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The Real Life Story of Ashley Tervort (Imaginary?!)
Sep 24, 2020 Episode 39
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan M.Sc.

#039 Ashley came like a comet to the Social Media world...

But what's her real story? 

What's hidden that most people don't see?

The juicy details will be EXPOSED in this episode.

So first subscribe, then listen.

Let's go!

Podcast Music: THBD - Good For You

Support the show (http://paypal.me//storybonding)

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#039 Ashley came like a comet to the Social Media world...

But what's her real story? 

What's hidden that most people don't see?

The juicy details will be EXPOSED in this episode.

So first subscribe, then listen.

Let's go!

Podcast Music: THBD - Good For You

Support the show (http://paypal.me//storybonding)

The Real Life Story of Ashley Tervort (Imaginary?!)

### Introduction
Ashley came like a comet to the Social Media world...
But what's her real story? 
What's hidden that most people don't see?
The juicy details will be EXPOSED in this episode.
So first subscribe, then listen.
Let's go!

### Ashley Ann's Story
This is the real life story of Ashlety Ann:
One sentence describes her life growing up...
One sentence summarizes Ashley's reality as a kid in Utah...
It's the opening sentence from Tolstoy's Anna Karenina:
"All happy families are alike. Each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."
Isn't that the truth?
For Ashley, it wasn't all that peachy.
Growing up, her world felt like constant chaos.
Family fights were as common as family dinners.
Her and her mom, ups and downs like a rollercoaster.
Her Mormon faith, a side of goodness that still couldn't satisfy her inner truth.
It felt wrong. Like she's the wrong girl in the wrong place at the wrong time.
A life that crushed her inside, pushing her into introversion and a deep sense of social anxiety. 
Almost a fear of all other human beings.
She couldn't take this anymore.
At 17, she had to make the grown up decision: 
Either to stay, to conform, to let her light die inside her...
Or to break free, somehow, somewhere... To get out before it's too late.
And maybe it was luck. Or was it divine intervention?
At the perfect time, she stumbled across the right opportunity: To escape into Madrid as an Au Pair for some wealthy folks.
With no hesitation, she packed all her bags and flew into what she didn't know.
Anything... any change is better than where she was, how she was.
And there is almost no moment as significant as that first second she put her left foot out of the airplane, and took a deep breath of the Spanish air flowing into her lungs...
It smells warms. It smells spicy. And best of all, it smells NOTHING like Utah.
That new family was waiting for her with happy faces... Smiling children... Calm and tranquility...
It was like being transported into another dimension where families were actually sane, good, and a positive force in your life...
She could NOT believe her senses... almost.
And those months were deeply cathartic.
Yes, she didn't go out as much as she should have. Her social anxiety was still there, present, alive and kicking.
Yes, she didn't even do the ONE thing every person should do whenever they get the chance to go to Madrid: To go watch Cristiano Ronaldo play at the Santiago Bernabéu...
But it didn't matter. Ashley was finally happy.
She spent her day doing the two things she loved the most in the world:
Spending time with children. And eating all the delicious food she could get her little greedy hands on.
She did put on fat, it's true.
Because, not only does Ashley have crippling social anxiety, but  she had a love-hate relationship with the one thing that fascinated her -- food -- the love-hate relationship which will make her the Ashley we know today.
Her life was simple in Madrid. Almost too simple.
Her days were childlike: Playing with children, basking in their innocence, and baking for them all the cakes they loved.
It was a spectacle every time she made Strawberry Tart for those little kids, they'd jump up and down all over the sofas and the chairs, unable to contain their excitement!
"Yeeeey!"
But like all the best things in life, that year passed in the blink of an eye, and she found herself in the middle seat of a Boeing plane flying back to the USA.
It was again, decision time...
After all the healing, after all the distance, should she return home to Utah?
Was it time?
She felt confused.
Her heart beating.
Her forehead cold.
What should she do NOW?
Right there, a deep part of her jumped in and said:
"No WAY will you be returning to Utah, little girl.
It's time to finally live.
It's time to know what you're capable of.
It's time for the big league, the big city of Angels."
And without hesitation, she found herself booking a one way ticket to LA-X.
Was she scared? Of course.
Was she terrified? Every single ounce of her body screamed for mercy.
But there was no other way. No other choice.
She had to break free.
Or, as her favorite modern philosopher, Lana Del Rey wrote:
"It's never too late
To be who you wanna be
It's never too late
To leave if you wanna leave"
So she had to trust her gut on this one, and fly away into the unknown.
Because the truth is: Courage is NOT the absence of fear.
Courage comes from the French "Coeur," which means having heart.
Courage is to feel the fear, and have heart, have the guts to move forward towards what you're afraid of.
And I believe this 1000%, whatever is our biggest fear, that is the path we have to pursue, that's where the biggest growth is hiding, in that darkness.
Ashley arrived to the city of stars and angels.
A broke teenage girls with a small purse and big dreams.
And it was NOT easy.
Her social anxiety was rearing its ugly head.
She needed some comfort, some support. But not from humans, she was still scared of them.
She needed company. So the first thing she did is to adopt a puppy, her companion, her honey.
Her puppy will give her the strength to move forward during the hard and crazy times.
And as soon as she settled in, she started looking for work.
Looking here, there, and everywhere... until she got a job at a shopping mall.
But still, it was hard.
Waking up every day knowing she'll go meet other people and have to small talk with them felt like a daily punch to the gut.
She needed an escape. A way to get some social love without the scare of going to meet people.
And that was the birth of her YouTube channel.
A way for her to make friends without the burdens of friendship.
A way for her to express her emotions and thoughts, without looking a stranger right in the eyes.
Every video she posted was a slice of her life shared with the world that nourished her soul because she felt heard, she was satisfying her need to matter, her needs to communicate.
It's beyond being sexy, it's an outlet for human bonding and human touch to a girl suffering from all kinds of understandable mental health issues: Eating disorders, social anxiety, loneliness. Things that her channel on YouTube keep sane and at manageable levels.
It was HARD for her to have a social life in Los Angeles.
A Utah girl was not used to the fake-ness that is standard in L.A., where human robots are walking around smiling in your face and ready to stab you in the back as soon as they see the opportunity. Ruthless.
And even with good people -- for her to have the grit to go and meet them, it was like a glass cage came over her every time, freezing her in place, keeping her at home with her Puppy dog, alone, because she couldn't take it.
Yes, with every video, there was more success. Which kept her sane.
But outside her channel, her circle was getting smaller and smaller. Her circle so small it became simply -- a period.
That's the story of Ashley Ann and her YouTube channel.
It's the story of a girl misunderstood, where people only see one inch deep and don't see the turmoil raging inside her:
Her YouTube channel is a necessity, not a luxury.
It's her way to get the attention, understanding, and community she craves; while she battles with social anxiety in the real world.
It's her -- saying all the things she kept sealed inside because of how hard that first step of opening up a real life stranger is for her.
Without YouTube, we would never know where Ashley would be. If she would even be here today.
But every single one of her 129k subscribers on her YouTube breath life onto her, give her a feeling she's not alone in this universe, and this-- keeps her going forward, one day at a time.
That's the Origin Story of Ashley Ann.
And I would love to interview Ashley, to fill in the gaps about her life, to make this story more than a story an outsider observed. To explore the events, the emotions, and the educational lessons she went through.
Because the power of sharing your Origin Story is this:
When people see someone online, they don't see them as a human being. They feel distant to then, inhuman, abstract.
But the reality of humanity is when we know the story of someone, we feel closer to them.
Even in movies, they begin first by sharing the Origin Story of the main characters.
What's the Origin Story of Superman? Sent to earth by his Extraterrestrial parents to be raised by a human couple on a farm.
What's the Origin Story of Spiderman? An awkward teenager bitten by a radioactive spider giving him superpowers.
What's the Origin Story of Batman? A child watching his parents gunned down by a criminal right in front of his eyes.

It's necessary.
Check now how much more "REAL" Ashley Ann feels after knowing her story. This is what keeps any Social Media personality as a part of the lives of their subscribers, never disappearing or losing relevance, because their story makes them a friend.
Do you know your Origin story?
Are you sharing it often with everyone, so they understand who you are and what you're all about?
And what's the common thread that is relevant in your story? For Ashley ANN in the story I shared, it was Social Anxiety.
What is it for you?
Clarifying and communicating your Origin Story changes everything.
It's one of the 5 elements that create a Legendary Powerful Personal Brand. So give it the time and care necessary.

### Conclusion
And if you have any questions, or would like help with this, or Ashley, if you have the time to do an audio interview, then email me at: mentor@storybonding.com
I end with this deep quote from the great Alain de Botton from his book The School of Life: An Emotional Education
"Anxiety is our fundamental state for well-founded reasons: because we are intensely vulnerable physical beings, a complicated network of fragile organs all biding their time before eventually letting us down catastrophically at a moment of their own choosing; because we have insufficient information upon which to make most major life decisions; because we can imagine so much more than we have and live in ambitious mediatized societies where envy and restlessness are a constant; because we are the descendants of the great warriers of the species, the others having been trampled and torn apart by wild animals; because we still carry in our bones -- into the calm of the suburbs -- the terrors of the savannah; because the trajectories of our careers and of our finances are plotted within the tough-minded, competitive, destructive, random workings of an un-contained economic engine; because we rely for our self-esteem and sense of comfort on the love of people we cannot control and whose needs and hopes will never align seamlessly with our own."

We all need to meditate on these words.
So let's do it.
To your prosperity, happiness, and beyond.
It's Aziz here. Goodbye

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