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The StoryBonding (Controversial?) Beliefs Manifesto 2020

July 10, 2020 Abdulaziz M Alhamdan M.Sc. Episode 19
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The StoryBonding (Controversial?) Beliefs Manifesto 2020
Jul 10, 2020 Episode 19
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan M.Sc.

#019 Beliefs are important. They can shape our reality, destroy our possibilities, limit our creativity, or open the door for us to create the world we want.

Even more importantly, beliefs define who we are. Communicating our beliefs is what will attract the right people into our lives, it's what will passively build our tribe that will have our back, and it's the secret hidden in plain sight, the path to success.

What are your deepest most sacred beliefs?

Listen to discover more.

Music: THBD - Good For You

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#019 Beliefs are important. They can shape our reality, destroy our possibilities, limit our creativity, or open the door for us to create the world we want.

Even more importantly, beliefs define who we are. Communicating our beliefs is what will attract the right people into our lives, it's what will passively build our tribe that will have our back, and it's the secret hidden in plain sight, the path to success.

What are your deepest most sacred beliefs?

Listen to discover more.

Music: THBD - Good For You

Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/StoryBonding)

What Do You Want to Think About Today?

The StoryBonding (Controversial?) Beliefs Manifesto

Beliefs are important. They can shape our reality, destroy our possibilities, limit our creativity, or open the door for us to create the world we want.

Even more importantly, beliefs define who we are. Communicating our beliefs is what will attract the right people into our lives, it's what will passively build our tribe that will have our back, and it's the secret hidden in plain sight, the path to success.

What are your deepest most sacred beliefs?

Listen to discover more.

Listen as I share with you some of my most important yet somehow controversial beliefs.

What do I value?

1) What Do You Know About That?

I value Integrity. When people are true to themselves, they share their truth with the world, 3 important things happen: (1) They enrich the perspective of others and conversations happening, because they add a different perspective, (2) They feel better and more empowered because they share their truth rather than compromising themselves, (3) They will resonate with and find people who are similar to them, which builds their own tribe, and this is very important for happiness.

2) What Do You Know About That?

I believe in fairness, but not in equity. This means I believe the world should be organized so that people are rewarded fairly for their efforts and the value they've built, and also accept misfortune as we are all open to it. I do not believe in equity, where everyone gets the same rewards no matter their efforts or talents or predispositions. I believe everyone has something they can add extraordinary value in, and that failure is a very important part of the process to find that: When people fail, fail, fail; it forces them to try something else, and in the process, they will try new things and might get a glimpse at what they can be excellent at, so they pursue it. However, if everyone gets the same things, there is no incentive to push ourselves out of our comfort zone, and therefore we cannot find our zone of excellence. Everyone will be stuck in mediocrity.

3) What Do You Know About That?

I believe in supporting all of humanity's pursuit of happiness. I believe people are doing their best, always, even if what they do seems to us as wrong or cruel or illogical. Humans are built to pursue happiness and to escape pain. And the modern times are created in a way where most people are living in a constant state of anxiety, of fear, and confusion. So, everyone is doing what they think is right to escape that pain. This is also why people don't like it when someone contradicts them or tells them they are wrong. Because what is happening is: People are trying to escape the constant state of anxiety they are living in, and they believe what they are doing is the way to escape that pain and to find happiness. If you tell them they are wrong, you are basically telling them: "The best way you know of escaping the pain is wrong." And since it's the best way they know of, it means if it is wrong, they basically aren't left with another choice. By contradicting them, you are telling them: "You are wrong, so stay in your pain". And therefore you get the reaction of someone who got trapped in a painful situation with the wall behind their back and no way out, they lash out in anger and despair.

4) What Do You Know About That?

This is also why I do not believe you can change people. And you cannot help anybody until they want to be helped. I believe human beings need to reach their own level of "rock bottom" before they become open to doing something else, something new. They must go through the path they think is correct until life proves to them it will not work. Because, as I said, people are desperately escaping the anxiety and pain caused by their current situation, doing what they believe will get them out, and if you tell them it's wrong, you are telling them they will do all that work and not get out of the pain. It's the wrong time, because they still have hope. And the brain needs proof, not promises. Which means they have to go through that path until the pain gets worse and worse, only then they will come to their own conclusions that the path was wrong, and only then they will consider alternatives. Until that moment, any advice or argument you get in with them, you're just wasting your time.

5) What Do You Know About That?

I believe good health and consistent energy is the foundational key to success in life. If we do not have the energy to invest in doing the work we need in order to succeed, we cannot build success. Success is not a one-step-plan. Success is somewhat of a marathon where you work consistently to build momentum. You're building your future. And it's not just about how much time you put into something. Because you can work 24 hours a day however, you'll be under-slept, tired, unable to focus and lethargic. However, if you sleep well, eat healthy, have good energy and a sharp brain, you can do in 2 hours more work than you can do in 20 hours by burning yourself out. I do not believe in the words of those who try to push you to "hustle more," to "sleep less," to work harder. That advice is taken to an extreme. Yes, most people need to work harder, but not to work themselves to death. I personally have experienced this: I am a highly creative individual who comes up with many ideas and usable solutions that work. 5 years ago, I believed in the "hustle harder" mentality. So, I would sleep 4 hours a day, barely eat anything other then snacks, and worked for 20 hours during a month. After a few days, I noticed some very important changes: I literally stopped having any creative ideas at all, my brain just shut down the creative part. Also, I was investing 2 hours of my day in learning, and I noticed I would ready a page again and again and again and literally retain nothing, as if the world couldn't stay on my mind. I also noticed I get more agitated and less productive although I would spend more time: I would feel a huge pull to go clean up the room, or to pace around the table, or to check youtube for a few minutes, or to go make tea and coffee to stay awake, and that my work was taking much longer than usual, as if my brain and body were working in slow motion. And I couldn't even sleep well, because sitting on a desk for that many hours in a day to "hustle to the maximum," just filled my body with pains and aches that accumulated into more and more severity over time. So, that month was one of the least productive months of my life. Plus, after it, I was so exhausted I collapsed into bed and couldn't do anything for a full week after it, and when I returned, I needed to rebuild my productivity slowly over time. And I took the time to measure it, and I saw it clearly: such maximum effort is not sustainable. Such "hustle hustle hustle" is unproductive. And that if I actually worked at a sustainable pace and took some days off, I would have produced more, spent less time to achieve similar or better results, and I would have been able to take days off during the week while still be more productive than working 20 hours a day for a month! So, don't believe the hype. Maybe someone can work a 100 hours a week, but I assure you, most of those hours are wasted, their productivity is decimated, and they will burn out killing their momentum and losing more time than they gain. Therefore, in being productive: Yes, work hard, but do it at a sustainable level, the level you can do without burning out.

6) What Do You Know About That?

I believe learning is not about rote memorization of a method. Yes, methods and techniques help and are useful, but it's beyond all that. I believe that learning is a way to discover more about who we are and what we believe. Most people walk around confused, they don't know who they are. We are born into life to discover who we are, but most people aren't aware of this. So, knowledge is to be used as a catalyst for introspection: You learn something new, then take it, and ponder on it. As yourself: Do I believe this to be true? And why would this work? And am I the kind of person who will use this method? And if not, what kind of person am I? What do I stand for that supports this method? And other such introspective questions. This is how you know yourself and use knowledge to trust your own judgement: You learn, and use what you learn to question who you are as a person, what you believe, what you will do and will not do, and why. Then, each piece of knowledge you discover will unearth a new layer into your being, getting you closer to know yourself. And this is what I believe is the true purpose of knowledge.

Also, I believe each person should work to maximize their happiness. This means each person must decide what makes them happy and what behaviors, thoughts, and lifestyle is what will give them the good feelings of happiness. It will be different for each person. And also, that people should not harm each other. SO, should they compromise to not harm each other? No. I believe people should be themselves 100% and be fully frank and radically honest. And they should share that with others, and walk away from people who don't match what they want therefore not harming them or bothering them, and attract the people who match them 100%.

7) And Now, What Do You Know About That?

Never do anything that makes you weak. Never do anything that destroys your freedom. If anything requires you to compromise yourself, then it really isn't part of the path that is right for you. And if you accept "good enough" in anything you do, you will waste your time and energy, rather than try a few more times to find something GREAT. That is why I believe we should follow our hearts and have integrity. This means to do what we believe in, the things that are meaningful to us, and to understand that the world has so much potential beyond accepting "good enough" that it's a real crime against ourselves to stay stuck in something we hate, while if we took more chances, we can find what we love, and therefore totally transform our level of happiness. Because finding something we love is infinitely superior to whatever we can get by doing something that kills our soul every day, whether that's a job, a relationship, a business, etc. If you're involved with anything that doesn't fulfill you, know that something that will fulfill you is out there, waiting for you to give it a solid try.

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